Posts tagged ‘Eric Cooper’

October 20, 2011

Spirit Day 2011

I thought of putting up an inspiring music video for Spirit Day, I toyed with recording myself  saying something pithy ( if I could have avoided crying), but this is a really important day for me for many reasons. It is partly because  I was bullied in various ways as a kid and that I am still dealing with that internalized self-hatred even now but it is more about the fact that LGBT kids today are still facing it. This subject  brought some amazing people into my life last year. My little blog and my posts led me to meet Eric. Meg and Clay. Three people I adore and treasure and will do so forever despite the fact Eric ,who was the most wonderful person I have ever met,  was murdered along with his kid Cooper.

Spirit Day is not just a feel good  thing, it is about life and death. If we wear purple and kids see they have other LGBT people or allies around them – they see a safe harbor. Maybe, just maybe,  if you wear purple a kid who is feeling hopeless will see that he or she has someone they can talk to and  you can tell them it is okay to be exactly the way they are.

So I have decided to post Anderson Cooper’s excellent discussion about bullying as my Spirit Day tribute to all of our wonderful kids who were bullied to death. Thanks to my friend Dave of SuchisLifeVideos on Youtube for recording so many things that are relevant to our lives.  Kind of hard typing this as the videos have me crying.

Happy Spirit Day! We have a long way to go before our kids are safe from bullying.

September 25, 2011

Paws Up Forever!

For Jamey Rodemeyer, and all the young  LGBT people who have died because their sexual identity was a problem  for others  –  I have no words – but Lady GaGa has and those words are – Paws up!


August 20, 2011

A cause that Eric was passionate about.

Eric’s contribution to the It Gets Better project.

August 19, 2011

Stop the violence, stop the hate and stop the bullying!

Via my friend Shannon. This is a subject that brought Eric and I together – the victimization of those who are different in some way. We always said that if there was one single thing that brought us together it was the death of Seth Walsh. We identified with him in a way that is hard to describe.

Apologies to those who VEVO chooses to block.

August 19, 2011

Requiem for someone who changed my life.

For my closest confidante Eric who lit up every day for me. I may stop crying one day but I will never stop missing you Eric Cooper.

W. H. Auden

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.

He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong.

The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.



August 18, 2011

Farewell to my dear friend Eric

RIP Eric. You improved the lives of those who knew you.

About a year ago, in the lead up to Spirit Day someone came upon this blog, liked what they were reading and added me on Twitter. Thanks to the internet we became fast friends and we basically spent at least an hour every night chatting about our lives and hopes. I couldn’t imagine going to bed without chatting with my adopted little brother.

We hadn’t chatted for the past few days because he was going through a messy breakup and his partner’s family were visiting from overseas.  It was, in fact, the longest period we had ever gone without talking. I checked his Facebook wall today to see condolences there – a quick Google search and the horror became apparent. Eric and his 3 year-old were stabbed to death in their apartment in Seattle. His partner has been charged with both murders.

Eric had only moved to Seattle a few weeks earlier and was looking forward to moving on with his life. I was looking forward to picking a present for his 30th birthday. Now he is gone.

Life is funny. Just when you don’t expect it someone wonderful shows up to make your life a new and exciting adventure. Then, just as quickly, they can be taken away. Cherish those you care for because the day may come when they will just not be there.

Eric was funny, thoughtful, articulate, wise beyond his years, caring, loyal and talented. He also knew the words to every Cher and ABBA song ever written. He made me smile and he made me think.

Eric, wherever you are, it was a privilege and honor to be your friend. You will forever be in my heart.

Eric would want us to celebrate his life and not be sad  but if anyone deserves a few tears it is him.

He would have approved of this video choice.

This is the story will ever replace my Merk