Posts tagged ‘Ex-Gay’

March 26, 2011

Joy Behar on Exodus

October 31, 2010

A thinking Trinidadian writes about the ex-gay visit

Kevin Baldeosingh of the Trinidad Express is one of  my favorite local columnists and one of the more thoughtful. He is also a member of the Trinidad and Tobago Humanist Association and has been a guest on my program several times.  Today he wrote an insightful article on the subject of the ex-gay minister who visited Trinidad last week:

“Evangelical Christians and Catholics came together last week to lobby against homosexual relationships. The Emmanuel Community, Lawyers for Jesus, and the Hospital Christian Fellowship brought down an American pastor as their point man to give talks at various forums in Trinidad and Tobago. Philip Lee claims to have been a homosexual from 18 to 35 years of age, after which he became heterosexual. In his talks given over the past week, Lee asserted that no one was born homosexual and that gayness was “acquired behaviour”. This statement is not borne out by scientific research, however.

But can sexual orientation be changed? Psychiatrist Gerard Hutchinson, a professor at UWI’s Medical School, says, “The jury is still out. Probably not, but it can be masked. Men in their 50s and 60s are now coming out and admitting that they are gay in spite of marriage and children, so orientation does not necessarily equal action.”

Read more here.

October 28, 2010

My friend Alvin marks the birth of a movement.


My very close friend Alvin - who is mad as hell.



We have had this  Ex-Gay minister here for a week and apparently the LGBT  community has reached a boiling point. A second  protest was held today at the University of the West Indies  for this vile and peculiar person to spout his misinformation. I assume that UWI will also be hosting the KKK when they arrive on these shores.

In any case the CAISO group sat there in their protest t-shirts which said:


  1. Buy Crix
  2. Spend time with family
  3. Work for equality

By all accounts it was all very peaceful.  Unfortunately for them my best friend Alvin was also there. He decided to stand up in the middle of the gospel meeting and ask the strange Pastor questions. I guess the pastor now knows that saying weird things to an audience in this part of the world is not the same as Uganda.

Alvin posted this on Facebook.

Today I witness first hand a “bully” disguised in a blanket called
religion as he tried to influence young folks into believing gay persons
will go to hell and they are Sinners who are the cause of spreading
diseases to mankind.
This former United Airlines flight attendant/homo (talk about flying the friendly skies) whose days living in San Francisco and, one would guess, wearing flowers in his hair; suddenly had a vision one night and the “Homosexual Chains” were broken. Now this brings several questions to mind.

1.Were the chains holding up a sling with you face up on it?

2. Were you doing a David Carradine at the time?

3.Was it a S&M routine gone bad or were you caught with Granma’s pearls again?.

Nevertheless some Bad Romance or Experience has made this poor soul into a self hating homo who is on a relentless pursuit to convince the world that Homosexuality can be cured and he’s living proof of it. Mind you if I was gay and looked like Phillip Lee I would hate myself so much that I also would start wearing polyester shirts and spread hate. Anyhows the born again Pastor not only passed judgment on those whose bedroom business is no concern of his and his flock of fools but went as far as to say that we are all rampant drug users who practice promiscuous sex and are trying to bring down the Church with our forbidden lifestyle.I am trying to find right now at least 1 Anti-Heterosexual group or religion but it seems we “Children Of God” are much too busy just trying to live our lives which may just be a great bother to Pastor’s like Lee and other Men of the Closet..sorry Cloth or just maybe they are missing out on that extra 10% of our salaries to help furnish penthouses for their boytoys and taking them on getaways to Ibiza .

Your rantings are not god’s word u ignorant red neck. And if that is what your ministry believe is salvation then drag me str8 to HELL. The messengers of HATE must not be allowed to spread propaganda to the young minds. Love yourself no matter if you’re Gay/Straight/Black/White/Poor/Rich . Do not ever think you are a Sinner because of who you choose to Love or have Sex with. We are no longer a silent minority ..Let your voices be heard..Be Proud of who you are..This is our time..SPEAK UP.

CAISO has published their own comprehensive take on the minister and his activities here.

October 27, 2010

Interview with Brendon O’Brien of CAISO

This interview with Brendon aired today on ieTV Channel 1 on the FLOW cable network. The group CAISO ( Coalition Advocating for the Inclusion of Sexual Orientation) is the one that held the t-shirt protest against a visiting ex-gay minister on October 20, 2010 – the first such protest in the country. I guess as Bob Dylan famously sang – The Times They Are a-Changin

For those puzzled by the first list item, “Crix” is a  cracker made in Trinidad & Tobago and is widely considered a food staple.

(NEW) on Vimeo as one high quality video

or on YouTube in two parts

CAISO has just posted an entry on their blog about the issue. Read it here.

October 26, 2010

Putting a face to the issue

Brendon O'Brien of CAISO

I conducted an interview today with Brendon O’Brien of the group CAISO ( Coalition Advocating for the Inclusion of Sexual Orientation) . This is the group that conducted a t-shirt protest of a visiting ‘ex-gay’ minister visiting from the US. They attended one of his seminars , making up about half of those present , and asked questions. Afterwards the group went to a local mall for dinner still wearing their t-shirts. In many other parts of the world this would be no big deal but here it was a pretty radical act.

Brendon is only 20 and , being a spoken word poet, very charismatic and a good communicator. His passion for fighting for equal rights was palpable and I think it made for an interesting interview. Heck, just having someone young talking about the subject in these parts is interesting enough. We discussed why there is suddenly a voice on the subject now and how social networking is a powerful tool for organizing young people. He seems very confident that the movement for changing  the society here will grow from strength to strength as he noted that people of all orientations are joining in. We shall see. One thing is for certain the fact the group escaped any violence or verbal taunting puts T&T miles ahead of Jamaica in that regard.

As usual the best part of the chat was with him and the other members of CAISO after the cameras stopped rolling – but what happens after the interview stays after the interview.

The interview will air tomorrow on ieTV at 7pm ( streaming  on Ustream live) and will be on YouTube at the same time. It will be linked here tomorrow.

Addendum – The video has now been uploaded and you can click here to see it.

October 21, 2010

The ex-human movement

Spirit Day has helped to draw attention to bullying and more specifically LGBTQ bullying but it doesn’t end with just a day. The problem persists and while the attention of the world media has been drawn to the cause it cannot be allowed to just end there.

Every day in a myriad of ways kids growing up knowing that there is something different about them are subjected to taunting and ridicule that too often leads them to give up hope. The pressure on them comes from words of hatred they hear constantly online, in the media and often in their own homes. This drives many a kid to think he or she is  an aberrant freak of nature – an unpleasant thing that just happened and that is inimical to the functioning of society. Kids don’t always know there is a bigger picture and that not everyone thinks the same way. They often just hear the loudest message  and internalize it.

As they try to deal with all the other pressures of a young life this nagging assault on their being can be a significant presence . They often have to spend so much energy hiding their feelings and their essence that it prevents them from realizing all they can be. It affects how they socialize, how they develop their romantic attachments and their self esteem. How wonderful it would be if LGBT kids could just be allowed to blossom and be themselves. Every young LGBT life lost is a possible Alan Turing, Oscar Wilde or E M Forster that the world will never be enriched by.

Here in Trinidad & Tobago where I work and live lately there is both latent and overt homophobia. It is not as bad as it is in other parts of the English Caribbean such as Jamaica but it is a reality. A kid growing up here is constantly aware of the hate. They are probably aware of the fact that if they are caught in any physical act there are laws that can put them in jail. They constantly hear from their churches ( and it is almost a universal message in this multi-religious society) that they are evil and going to hell. Imagine what that does?

Things have been better here in little ways for LGBT people and I suppose that filters down to young people. Now I see that a group  called ( no CAPS for them) his way out ministries is going to be here to spread the message that they can be converted to being straight. Apparently, this deluded group of bigots will be on the island  to tell parents of gay kids and kids that they can change. I am sure they can be ‘changed’ from being heterosexual too. To the extent that they can be turned into fucked up heterosexuals. Like young LGBT kids need another message telling them that there is something wrong with them. I suspect the message of every major psychiatric organization that says being LGBT is not a problem will be unheard here – except for me. And that assortment includes the WHO.

At least I see one good development . The group CAISO plans to protest him. This will be a first for this country. It requires a lot of bravery on the part of the protesters but I suspect they will pull it off. I know at least one friend who will be putting his money and his feet behind them.

The time has come for every LGBT person who has survived the hatred and stupidity to not think “well that is their problem now”. Every LGBT kid who gives in to the hatred and commits suicide is an indictment of every older person who doesn’t speak out – who doesn’t become a role model.

T&T can become a shining beacon to the rest of  the Caribbean that difference can be accepted. Not tolerated – I hate that word. It just takes all the LGBT voices to speak as one for politicians to realize that they have to pay attention.

Speak out!  Do you want to be on your death-bed knowing you sat quietly and let LGBT kids die because you didn’t say a word to make the world a little more welcoming?

If you want to add me feel free to do so at  @globewriter on Twitter and at www, ( just say LGBT in your message). Let’s expand the global conversation.

October 7, 2010

Life out loud…

My brother , who is a Police Officer in Toronto,  sent me a text earlier to say “There’s a march going on through my division right now in relation to suicide by gay kids.” Knowing him he would have been right there protecting them. Mind you, it isn’t usually an issue in TO but I pity any bully he happens to run across.

This evening I saw Anderson Cooper interview Chris Armstrong , the university student who is student assembly president at the University of Michigan and is being cyber-bullied by the peculiar  ( can you say issues boys and girls?) Michigan Asst. Atty General. He said he didn’t want to be speaking out about a personal matter but the spate of suicides such as Seth, Asher and Tyler made him think he should speak out. So in many ways the tragic loss of these young and potentially beautiful lives has not been in vain. It has encouraged activism and thanks to the media ( of which I am part and now happier than ever to be part of)  significant and unrelenting coverage of the long standing issue is getting attention.

Today it also came to my attention ,via Facebook and my dear friend Alvin, that some strange US based “His Way Out”  Ex-Gay group is coming here soon. They plan to run around spreading hate to the few who will listen  and even have a meeting planned with the new Port of Spain Mayor whose party isn’t exactly known for its spirited stance on diversity. Great timing fools!  If the US has a problem with suicide and they are a lot more  advanced – how do you think that will affect kids here where they feel even more isolated? Oh right – they don’t give a damn. Any young blood spilled will just be collateral damage in their quest to change human nature. I will not even dignify them by linking to their god awful site.  Apparently, though, there is a protest planned so that will be a first for T&T.  I hope they realize they are probably going to hell too for eating shrimp – it is an abomination – from the same Leviticus they love to quote.

As a result of this development my pal Alvin posted his views and people commented – resulting in this exchange:

Naturally, I responded with this:

I know I shouldn’t be so brash …oh wait…I should.

On a lighter note I missed Margaret Cho on DWTS . This is not surprising as I don’t watch the programme – but I love her humour. It seems dear Margaret decided to go all out in her last venture :

Way to live loud Margaret!

Don’t forget on October 20, 2010 – wear purple in honour ( honor for my American friends)  of those countless kids who have died as a result of bullying and to celebrate Spirit Day. I will be wearing it on camera.