Posts tagged ‘Mom’

October 18, 2012

Israel’s Idan Matalon and a Conversation with his Mom.

The always refreshing and amusing Idan Matalon takes a break from clip-syncing to have an intimate on-camera chat with his mother. ( In Hebrew with English subtitles).

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December 22, 2011

If this doesn’t touch you – you probably don’t have a heart.

Darren Hayes, the out former front man of  the hugely successful band Savage Garden shares some very personal memories of his best Christmas ever.  I will admit I got teary eyed and watched it again with my mom which only made me cry more.  According to Wikipedia :

 He married (via a civil partnership) his boyfriend of two years, Richard Cullen, on 19 June 2006 in London.[14][15] Though public speculation about his sexual orientation had been present throughout his career, he is famous for keeping his personal life private.

 

 

 

October 5, 2011

Beautiful things that make me cry – accepting parents.

I am a bit late to this as seems to be the case in general lately. A mom blogged about her 6 year old and it caused an internet storm.  In a post reminiscent of Nerdy Apple a while ago this mom, who should be entered in the Hall of Fame of Moms,  blogged “Mommy, they are just like me.” 

It seems her six year old son was in love with Blaine from Glee. Her response to this needs to be carved in marble and used as an example of  how all parents should react to such a thing.

My oldest son is six years old and in love for the first time.  He is in love with Blaine from Glee.

For those who don’t know Blaine is a boy…a gay boy, the boyfriend of one of the main characters, Kurt.

This isn’t a ‘he thinks Blaine is really cool’ kind of love.  It is a mooning at a picture of Blaine’s face for a half hour followed by a wistful “He’s so pretty” kind of love.

He loves the episode where two boys kiss.  My son will call people in from other parts of the house to make sure they don’t miss his ‘favorite part.’  He’s been known to rewind it and watch it over again…and force other to, as well, if he doesn’t think people have been paying enough attention.

This infatuation doesn’t bother me or his father.  We live in a very hip-liberal neighborhood, many of our friends are gay, and idea of having a gay son isn’t something that bothers either of us.  Our son is going to be who he is, and it is our job to love him.  End of story.

He is also six.  Six year olds get obsessed with all kinds of things.  This might not mean anything at all.  We always joke that he’s either gay, or we have the best blackmail material in the history of mankind when he’s a 16 year old straight boy. (Take that naked bath time pictures!)

Then the other day we were traveling across the state listening to the Warblers album (of course), and in the middle of Candles, my son pipes up from the back seat.

“Mommy, Kurt and Blaine are boyfriends.”

“Yes, they are,” I affirm.

“They don’t like kissing girls.  They just kiss boys.”

“That’s true.”

“Mommy, they are just like me.”

“That’s great, baby.  You know I love you no matter what?”

“I know…” I could hear him rolling his eyes at me.

Read the rest here.

The Huffington Post added even more to the story that was very sniffle worthy.

It also made some people uncomfortable. Of the criticisms, the most common is that my son is six years old and doesn’t know anything about sex. While I fully acknowledge this may not be the end-all-and-be-all to my son’s sexual orientation, I object to the idea that being gay is only about sexual acts. Our emotions and feelings, our attractions and compulsions, all contribute, not just our body parts. If my son had a crush on the star of iCarly, I doubt people would be saying he was too young to have those sexual feelings towards a girl. I think they would think it was an innocent schoolboy crush, which is exactly what it is.

Plus, for every comment I’ve read saying my son is too young, I have received multiple messages from adults saying “I knew when I was little, too.”

It got me thinking and after awhile I started to feel like I knew this big secret that shouldn’t be a secret at all: Every gay adult used to be a gay kid. It’s not as if all children start off as straight until some time later when someone flips the gay switch. We are who we are from the very moment we are born.

The horrible and hate filled words of the Michele Bachmann’s of the world take on a whole new level of disgusting when picturing them being screamed at a group of kindergartners and first graders. They are unnatural. They are sinners. They are going to hell. They are dirty, wrong and sick.

These people would tell my innocent little boy (who currently wants to be a fireman-ninja when he grows up) he is the biggest threat the American family… because he wants to kiss boys and not girls.

The reality is they are pounding these words of ignorance and hate into the ears and minds of gay children every day. And those children are hearing them. I know because many of those kids are now writing to me. Kids as young as 14 have sent me messages. So many are scared children, who sure as hell did not choose this for themselves, living in fear of their family finding out because they know full well what their mom and dad will say. And they tell me they wish I was their mom.

I want to keep all this talk, all these lies, all this hate, away from these kids. Of course, there is an inherent problem with that. We can’t pick out the gay kids simply by looking, and behavior isn’t a clear indicator (some little straight girls are tomboys, and some little gay boys love their monster trucks). The only way we can truly know someone’s orientation is if they tell us, which for some doesn’t happen until well into adulthood.

Read that article here.

Wow. Just wow.