Posts tagged ‘parents’

November 2, 2011

Interview with Michele Jodhan on November 1, 2011

Interview with the lovely Michele Jodhan, Director of the TallMan Foundation and mother of Project Runway Season Nine winner, Anya Ayoung Chee.  Interview aired November 2, 2011 on ieTV, Channel 1, Trinidad.

September 21, 2011

I have much admiration for Anderson Cooper

This was last night and there was another moving story tonight from Anderson Cooper – few people follow these awful stories as doggedly as Anderson. I will upload tonight’s video as soon as it is available. As the wonderful late Amy Winehouse said – tears dry on their own.

February 2, 2011

Good Advice

Ironic though it may be, my nephew, who is like my own son is being bullied  at school. Good advice from some good people.

And as I said on Facebook – I had nobody to protect me when I was being bullied but he does – namely me. It has to stop.  The world has to put up a unified face against bullying for whatever reason.  Because a kid is weaker or perceived to be LGBT. Whatever the reason – no kid deserves to be threatened. If you are a parent you are failing in your responsibilities if your kid is involved in bullying.

Let’s just put a stop to this.

January 14, 2011

An Important New Documentary

There are many people out there trying to make things better for kids. Some are active in community work while others are using the online world or media to make a difference.

In between writing today I watched a new half hour documentary ‘Lead with Love’  aimed at parents with the express purpose of   providing ” comfort, information, and guidance for parents who have recently learned that their son or daughter is lesbian, gay, or bisexual”.  It is well done and fills a void that needed to be filled.

Here is the trailer:

Via Lezgetreal

You can watch the full documentary for free online. They ask that you fill out a very short survey first – which I urge you to do.

Watch the amazing Lead with Love documentary here.

November 25, 2010

Trying to Understand What Triggers Hatred and Bullying

As I mentioned in a previous entry I downloaded the book pictured above to my Kindle reader in an effort to make some sense of all the hatred and bullying that affects LGBT kids. I am not fooling myself into thinking that a genetic/fetal hormone explanation for  same sex attraction will suddenly make all the ignorance go away . Last time I checked being black or Asian was also genetic and those groups still have a lot of crap to endure from the ignorati. I am hoping to see why some kids get attacked for being gay or lesbian even before they have any clue what those terms mean. Young kids have no firm grasp on what sex or sexuality is and yet even at a very young age they are often singled out by bullies and their lives are made a living hell.  I am pretty sure that the vast majority of  LGBT kids who are victimized don’t even act on their attraction until years later.

The book, written by (gay) former Harvard neuroscientist Simon LaVey  looks at many possible determining factors that might lead to someone being gay or lesbian. He  examines the more likely scientific explanations such as genes, hormonal influences in the womb and permutations of those scenarios as well as casting a scientific eye on the usual “mommy’s boy” and “daddy’s girl” theories.  His analysis is deep and determined.

I am not finished reading yet but one section stood out for me in terms of the bullying issue:

“Psychiatrists who have seen many gay men in their practices do report that such men consistently speak of having been gender-nonconformist during their childhoods. Thus, Richard Isay, himself a gay man, wrote as follows:

Each of the several hundred gay men I have seen in consultation or treatment over the past 30 years has described having had one or more gender-discordant traits during childhood. Most frequently, they report a lack of interest in rough-and-tumble or aggressive sports; many speak of having preferred to play with girls rather than other boys… . Almost all recall that as children they felt a close bond with their mothers, with whom they shared many interests.

Reports such as this suggest that the stereotypes are correct, but still, there is reason for caution in interpreting them . Typically, these reports deal with gay men, not lesbians. And they may not be representative of all gay men: Boys who are strongly gender-nonconformist are more likely than other boys to experience anxiety and depression in adulthood, and for this reason may be more likely to end up in therapy.”

Mind you it is a no-brainer to me that the reason these kids experience depression and thoughts of suicide is because they believe all of humanity views them as an aberration and a sinner destined to rot forever in hell. They are too young to sort sense from deluded religious nonsense.

Even though ( as is obvious to most of us) pre-gay kids may display gender non-conformist behaviors at an early age , the victimization problem lies squarely on the shoulders of the parents of the bullies. If they raise kids who cannot see variations from the norm in terms of appearance and behavior without attacking the difference – they have to look at  themselves as the cause.  Parents teach intolerance in many ways, sometimes they are subtle and sometimes they are overt.  If your normal dinner table conversation involves words like “those faggots” then don’t be surprised if your child ends up in court.

Without giving the game away; the author scientist seems to leave little doubt that being gay or lesbian is something that is biologically ingrained. And speaking of which who knew that sheep were closest to humans in having a definite orientation regardless of the ratio of males to females? Hello Dolly!