Posts tagged ‘teen’

January 17, 2012

Strange And Disturbing Laws In Trinidad & Tobago

As many of you might know I live and work in Trinidad & Tobago which is a strange mishmash of  Victorian laws and modernity.  Ignoring the Sexual Offenses Act which might be problematic for me  were I not given only 3 months in the country on my last entry :

13. (1) Aperson who commits buggery is guilty of an offence
and is liable on conviction to imprisonment—
(a) if committed by an adult on a minor, for life;
(b) if committed by an adult on another adult, for
twenty-five years;
(c) if committed by a minor, for five years.
(2) In this section “buggery” means sexual intercourse
per anum by a male person with a male person or by a male person
with a female person


(2) Subsection (1) does not apply to an act of serious
indecency committed in private between—
(a) a husband and his wife; or
(b) a male person and a female person each of whom
is sixteen years of age or more, both of whom
consent to the commission of the act.
(3) An act of “serious indecency” is an act, other than
sexual intercourse (whether natural or unnatural), by a person
involving the use of the genital organ for the purpose of arousing
or gratifying sexual desire.

Nope, no sexism, homophobia or overt  discrimination there. Actually, given my life of late it probably wouldn’t affect me but still.

What else is said you ask? Let me check… Oh wait there are laws that were introduced to placate religious groups. Like India …Oh wait…India is secular…what has T&T done?

There is a Muslim  marriage act. That allows…wait..what? A 12 year old girl to be married?  Seriously?

Yup:

8. The age at which a person, being a member of the Muslim
community, is capable of contracting marriage shall be sixteen in
the case of males and twelve in the case of females
However, in the case of an intended marriage between persons
either of whom is under eighteen years of age (not being a widower
or widow), the consent to the marriage, of the father if living or if
the father is dead of the guardian or guardians lawfully appointed
or of one of them, and in case there is no such guardian then of the
mother of the person so under age, and if the mother is dead then
of such other person as may be appointed for the purpose by the
President,shall be certified in writing by the marriage officer before
whom the marriage is contracted upon the certificate ofthe marriage
to be issued in accordance with the provisions of this Act.

The law is here.

Hindus fought for another offensive marriage age. Not quite as awful but still impressively pervy and sexist .

11. (1) The age at which a person, being a member of the
Hindu faith or religion, is capable of contracting marriage shall be
eighteen years in the case of males and fourteen years in the case
of females.
(2) Without prejudice to the provisions of subsection (1),
a marriage shall not be solemnised by a Marriage Officer if the
intended husband (not being a widower), is under eighteen years
of age or the intended wife (not being a widow) is under sixteen
years of age unless the consent to the marriage of the party who is
under age by virtue of thissubsection has been given in accordance
with the following provisions of this section, and the consent is
hereby required for the marriage of such party under age.
(3) The required consent may be given by the father of
the party under age, and if the father is dead by the guardian or
guardians appointed or one of them, and in case there is no such
guardian then by the mother of the party so under age, and if the
mother is dead then by such other person as may be appointed for
the purpose by the President.
(4) In case the father, mother, or a guardian whose consent
to a marriage is required under subsection (3) is absent from
Trinidad and Tobago or is unable or refuses to give the consent or
is not of sound mind, the party in whose case consent is required
may apply to the President to appoint a person, being a member of
the Hindu community, to investigate the circumstances of the
intended marriage and if after the investigation it appears to the
person so appointed that there are no reasonable objections to the
intended marriage such person shall so formally declare in writing
and the declaration shall, for the purposes of this Act, be deemed
equivalent to the consent as aforesaid.

Yes, T&T can’t deal with LGBT rights but it is so on the ball for child marriage rights.

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November 26, 2010

I suppose I have to post this

Justin Bieber posts an It Gets Better video -not the most inspiring – more of a by the way sort of effort but here it is:

October 22, 2010

This is pretty astounding

I am not a religious person but this bishop  telling his congregation he is gay in such a classy and in-depth way is pretty darned amazing.  I would urge everyone to watch it.

Vodpod videos no longer available.
October 3, 2010

Good for you.

To everybody who has asked me why I am so upset about bullying and serial blogging about it – including one of my best friends. I am glad you were never beaten up as a kid in school. I was. I am glad you weren’t. I want to use the F word but I will refrain. Interestingly, it was in #Toronto where you would least expect it .

And yes, I did try to kill myself at least twice. But I survived the name calling and punching and I am stronger for it. To those who called me names and hit me many times I say :  Fuck you!  I hope your lives are miserable – which they probably are. And to those who ask why I am blogging about something so personal. Well, if it stops just one random gay or straight  kid  who happens to seem different from killing himself or herself  and ending a proud and amazing life it will be worth it.

And another reason for me to be angry.

October 2, 2010

I wish I knew you.

Asher and Seth and many others. Had I known you- you might have lived  your lives. That is my fault.This is the fault of all of us.  We could have helped.  I am happy that the media  ( that be us) now notices that gay teens are 5 times more likely to kill themselves – I knew it all along and I did nothing. We all did nothing. I hope this attention now leads to change. Mea Culpa. I am sorry beyond belief.

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October 1, 2010

Things you wouldn’t see if George W. Bush were still in office.

Statement by U.S. Secretary of Education Arne Duncan on the Recent Deaths of Two Young Men

OCTOBER 1, 2010

U.S. Secretary of Education Arne Duncan today released the following statement:

“This week, we sadly lost two young men who took their own lives for one unacceptable reason: they were being bullied and harassed because they were openly gay or believed to be gay. These unnecessary tragedies come on the heels of at least three other young people taking their own lives because the trauma of being bullied and harassed for their actual or perceived sexual orientation was too much to bear.

“This is a moment where every one of us – parents, teachers, students, elected officials, and all people of conscience – needs to stand up and speak out against intolerance in all its forms. Whether it’s students harassing other students because of ethnicity, disability or religion; or an adult, public official harassing the President of the University of Michigan student body because he is gay, it is time we as a country said enough. No more. This must stop.”

September 30, 2010

Interview with Asher Brown’s parents.

Even Anderson Cooper gets a bit choked up.